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TGIF: June 6, 2014

burgoo tomato soup

I have to admit, I’m a little lost for words right now – not because of anything that’s happening in my life, but because the only thing most Canadians are going to be talking about this morning is the fact that the Moncton shooter was apprehended last night. After nearly 30 hours, that horrific event is finally over and the people in the City of Moncton are safe again; only, I imagine it will be difficult to shake off the stress and go back to “life as usual”.

Events like this force us to reflect on what’s most important in life. As Jordann stated last night, money isn’t always at the top of that list. <3

The low of my week was suffering from my very first migraine. For chronic sufferers, holy jeez, you have my empathy. For close to four hours, I could barely open my eyes without squinting and wiping back tears. Never again, please.

There were so many highs this week. On Sunday, I hiked to Whyte Lake for the first time, and got to catch up with Krystal and Jaime along the way. After, a girlfriend and I finally used a gift certificate for a side-by-side pedicure that I gave her as part of her bridal shower gift…last year. And I went for the most amazing dinner at Burgoo, to celebrate a friend’s move from Toronto to Vancouver. Seriously, who knew tomato soup and a grilled cheese sandwich could be so good? I can still taste it.

A blog post I loved was The Confidence Gap. I bookmarked this a month or so ago, but finally took the time to read it this week. “Do men doubt themselves sometimes? Of course. But they don’t let their doubts stop them as often as women do.” If you read the article in full, I’d be curious to hear some of your thoughts.

The best money I spent was $33.60 on a new wallet. I have a running list of things I “want” which, if you compare it to what I already own, could just as likely be a list of things I actually need. Why? Because I don’t usually replace things until it’s absolutely necessary – like my wallet. It’s nice to have one that zips up again.

My plans this weekend include marathoning the new season of Orange is the New Black tonight, potentially going for another hike with Krystal tomorrow, flying to Toronto on Sunday morning and having dinner with Jess that night.

How was your week? What are you up to this weekend?

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  1. I’m going to get my blog up to date and try to get some sort of rota so I can keep on top of everything I want to do virtually! Have a great weekend x

    June 6, 2014
    • Cait Flanders #

      Good idea, Leanne! Hope you enjoy your weekend too :)

      June 6, 2014
  2. Trista #

    I think the country collectively breathed a sigh of relief when they captured the shooter. But I can’t stop thinking about the men who lost their lives and the colleagues, family and friends who now have to go on living without them. Even under normal, everyday circumstances I often think about the safety of the RCMP and my local police the Royal Newfoundland Constabulary (I think it stems from working in HR and processing the workplace accident/injury reports).

    Alicia said she needed a new wallet as well… I’m seeing a trend with PF bloggers. Ha ha :)

    My week was good. It went quickly. Highs of my week were seeing my new office and going to dinner and to see Maleficent with my bf. This weekend I have been commissioned to make cupcake for a friend to bring to a baby shower. I had wanted to go to the farmer’s market as tomorrow is the first date of the year. But it seems like everyone is busy in the morning and I don’t want to go by myself. It is very likely I will binge watch the second season of Orange is the New Black that was released on Netflix today.

    June 6, 2014
    • Cait Flanders #

      This week went by sooo fast! And I just binge-watched the first 4 episodes. It’s great so far!

      June 6, 2014
  3. Sounds like you had a great week! My weekend is off to a great start. I’m spending Friday catching some sun and playing golf in a charity tournament on my office sponsored team. :) I can’t complain!

    June 6, 2014
    • Cait Flanders #

      Ahhh, that does sound fun! Enjoy!

      June 6, 2014
  4. Rob #

    Hi Cait!

    So I used your link to read The Confidence Gap article. Very interesting read and I could relate, thinking back to past work experience, to many of the points mentioned. My personal take is that the observed lack of confidence in many women (as compared to men), but not in all women mind you, is a self-fulling event. The fact that many positions are under represented by women requires that women have to try all that much harder than men to succeed. To do that results in women looking to acquire more perfection in their actions than would men (who would settle for doing what’s just “good enough” to succeed). And, as the article points out, “Perfectionism is another confidence killer. Study after study confirms that it is largely a female issue, one that extends through women’s entire lives.”

    Perfectionism can hold many people back, not just women, as men can succumb to this trait as well. Einstein’s school grades were never “perfect” but we all know that he was no slouch later in life. In the areas of lifestyle and personal finance, trying to accomplish (and improve on) every one of our set goals and meet our budgets 110% often causes us disappointment, and at times a lack of confidence, when we fall short. Often women are harder on themselves than are men. To which I conclude with my motto: Don’t sweat the small stuff because everything in life is just – small stuff.

    Anyway, that’s my babbling for today! Have a great weekend! :-)

    June 6, 2014
    • Cait Flanders #

      It wasn’t babbling. All great points, and I appreciate you sharing them here. Growing up, a few of my friends used to point out how confident I was – and in some areas of life, I can see that that’s true. But I know I lack confidence in other areas, which has *almost* lead to me giving up on a few dreams (which aligns with your self-fulfilling prophecy comment). Fortunately, I have great people in my life who push me to try the things I fear I can’t do. Who knows where I’d be without ‘em!

      Enjoy your weekend :)

      June 6, 2014
  5. Jodie #

    I just finished reading your entire blog history. First I want to say congratulations on all your accomplishments. Second, I think we all end up in that place for pretty much the same reasons and your willingness to share your journey has been inspiring. My goal $0 date is December 2015.

    Try drinking spearmint and lavender tea when you feel a migraine coming on, it’s helped me.

    June 6, 2014
    • Cait Flanders #

      18 months to go – you can do it, Jodie! And thank you for the congrats. It’s so cool to hear when someone has read through the archives. (Although, I hope I sound a bit happier now than I did back then, hehe.)

      That tea sounds amazing, thank you for the suggestion!

      June 6, 2014
  6. As a migraine sufferer I feel your pain Cait! I also hope you never get another one. They are the worst.

    This weekend is a fun weekend! Getting my hair cut for the first time in several years and then having pictures done. I won a contest for an outdoor photo shoot so that’ll be awesome. My boyfriend’s mom is in town this weekend so there’s a family dinner on Sunday.

    June 6, 2014
    • Cait Flanders #

      Whoa, fun! Are the pics going to be of just you or you + the boyfriend? Either way, enjoy :)

      June 6, 2014
      • Me and the boyfriend! And the longest chunk of hair that came off today was 7 inches! I love having shorter hair again!

        June 7, 2014
  7. Dayle #

    Happy Friday, Cait!

    Sorry to hear you had a migraine… I am not a chronic sufferer but I have had a couple and they are just awful!

    This weekend… we are going to Ribfest this evening. Tomorrow bf is going to a bachelor party so I may go back to Ribfest (again haha) as they are doing fireworks tomorrow night! Sunday I am meeting him downtown and we’re going to the Jay’s game… I don’t know if you follow baseball but the Jays are doing amazing right now… if you have time while you’re here you should try to catch a game :):)

    Have a great weekend!
    Dayle

    June 6, 2014
    • Cait Flanders #

      Haha, I don’t think I’ll have much time, but have been to a few and they are always fun! Enjoy the ribs – especially if you go twice! :)

      June 6, 2014
  8. I’m REALLY glad that the weekend is almost here. The low of my week has been the suddenly and inexplicable pain that I got in my neck and shoulders on Tuesday night. It came out of nowhere! I’m still stiff and sore days later but at least it’s getting a bit better each day.

    I think the high will be tonight when I go to see The Fault in Our Stars. It’s my favourite book so I’m crossing my fingers!

    June 6, 2014
    • Cait Flanders #

      Oh no! Have you tried icing and/or heat?

      Enjoy the movie! Some co-workers and I are going to see it on Thursday night… I can’t wait! We’ll have even more to discuss at dinner on Saturday :)

      June 6, 2014
  9. Migraines really do suck! Sorry you have to deal with those! It is great news that the shooter was caught. Everyone can sleep soundly again.

    June 6, 2014
    • Cait Flanders #

      Have you had one before? Not fun. My sister used to get them all the time and I could never really relate… now I understood why she would always hide in bed. :(

      June 6, 2014
  10. I love a good grilled cheese sandwich!!! And then there was the shooting in Seattle. It breaks me heart this keeps happening. Hope you have a great weekend! Did you get my email?

    June 6, 2014
    • Cait Flanders #

      Tonya, it was UNREAL. Three kinds of cheese – but not too much, it was still just a thin layer – grilled in thin slices of baguette. Ahhh! So good.

      And I did! I’m bad with email sometimes – usually reply to a bunch on weekends, so you can expect something in your inbox tomorrow. :)

      June 6, 2014
  11. Oh no, migraines are the worst :/. Protip: take medicine at the first sign of a migraine. If not, you’re lucky if the meds will even work at all :/.

    June 6, 2014
    • Cait Flanders #

      I did, but I only had Advil which isn’t really meant for that. May be time to start keeping a little bottle of Tylenol around. Womp womp.

      June 6, 2014
  12. I’m with Jodie, I also just finished reading through your archives. You’ve come such a long way since you started this blog, I’m so proud of all that you’ve done. And I’m looking forward to everything to come.

    My plans for the weekend are all about a camping trip to Jasper. Although I hurt my knee playing soccer last night, so I think any hikes with stairs or that are too steep are out! And I’m also checking out Jasper’s Glacier Skywalk, which was part of a birthday gift. Hope you have a great weekend Cait!

    June 6, 2014
    • Cait Flanders #

      I really hope we can make a pit stop in Jasper, when we drive my brother out to Edmonton this summer. Have a great weekend!

      June 7, 2014
  13. Thinking about the RCMP officers and their families and with today being the 70th anniversary of D- Day, a lot of emotions going on here. Then seeing a video of a three legged rescue Standard Poodle set me bawling. I have never had a migraine but I know they are the worst. Hoping you don’t have a repeat performance. Happy WE!

    June 6, 2014
    • Cait Flanders #

      Thanks, Debs. Enjoy yours too!

      June 7, 2014
  14. I have suffered with severe migraines so I believe you about the squinting and the tears. My best friend told me about the Moncton RCMP officers who were wounded and killed…my heart goes out to their families. And then the madness in Seattle…so much violence in our world.
    I’ll be catching up on my blog reading as I’ve pretty much settled into our new apartment. Enjoy your week-end Cait!

    June 6, 2014
    • Cait Flanders #

      Great to hear you’re settled in! Enjoy yours too :)

      June 7, 2014
  15. So excited to see you, and excited for Orange is the New Black!

    June 7, 2014
    • Cait Flanders #

      Are you binge-watching? I’m done 6 eps already, haha. Even more to discuss at dinner!

      June 7, 2014
  16. Hi Cait! Good to hear your updates.

    I wanted to comment on the Atlantic article you link to above. A lot of my friends from grad school (sociologists who study gender, in particular) have posted about that at various times since it came out, and we’ve talked about it a lot. The criticism that came up for us, which is the same criticism that people often bring against Sheryl Sandberg’s Lean In, is that the article is suggesting an individual solution to a cultural/societal problem.

    On the one hand, it’s great to point out inequities that exist for women in the workplace, and to help suggest things they can focus on within the current system — but the Atlantic article makes only a couple of throwaway mentions of the fact that there is a lot of structural inequality in the workplace that isn’t individual womens’ fault on their own. I myself wouldn’t take it this far, but some of my grad school friends likened this to “victim blaming.”

    Anyway, just a tidbit to think about. I thought it was a great article, I just wish they had done a follow up about structural or societal things that could be shifted similarly.

    June 9, 2014
    • Cait Flanders #

      I can see how your friends would feel that way about the article! I didn’t get a huge sense of that (personally) in this one, but I couldn’t staaaaand Lean In for that exact reason. So, I can’t disagree with any of your points. Thanks for sharing ‘em, hun!

      June 9, 2014

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